I am beginning to be disturbed by what is, at least for me, a new trend of posting for manipulation. I’ve seen way more of it than I think is healthy, but it wasn’t until I read Kat’s post that I decided to write this. Seems she decided to delete a post she’d written so as not to offend the wrong people. I understand that. I have to say I applaud that decision. (I should make it clear that I’m not saying Kat’s piece would have been manipulative, but, rather, I’m saying that she apparently felt that some people may have assumed, incorrectly, that the post was about them).
I understand that we all use manipulative techniques from time to time, but I’ve grown weary of lazily written “heartfelt” posts that really don’t say enough to make it clear what the author means, thereby inviting his/her readers to wonder if there is some “hidden message” meant for them. Cryptic posts strike me as manipulative, intended to get the last word in, or to invite affirmations from loyal readers. Maybe the posts are intended to invoke guilt in the hopes that the author can bring about some desired result. I just have to say I don’t care for them. And, I should say here, that no one author or post provoked this thread. (Clearly, it takes effort to insure one is not being manipulative, as this post could be seen as somewhat manipulative.)
I’m sure someone will point out to me that in and of itself, manipulation isn’t necessarily a bad thing. As an activist, I do intend to educate and sway, and yes, sometimes I am angling for someone to act. I am hoping to separate this from the inter-personal though. Then again, I could be way off base here. Whoda thunk it?